We wanted to ask Ray at what point he acknowledged a desire to wear something that as a man, he wasn’t ‘supposed’ to wear, and how did he feel in himself?, firstly acknowledging it and later, acting upon it. We wanted to hear about his internal feelings, not how other people reacted, but what the impact was like for him. And why despite people calling it cross-dressing, we don't think it's cross-dressing at all! It's simply dressing. Damn fine dressing.
It is really important to stop and think about this. What are you able to offer yourself? Could you have a walk at lunchtime? - it really does work, it sounds way too simple to be an effective lift, but it is. Could you arrange to meet your little nephews on that hill near to them and try and get the kite to fly? Or surprise your partner / friend / neighbour by having a go at making a cake? It is quite remarkable how seemingly small gestures have a far greater effect on how you feel about yourself.